If all mankind minus one were of one opinion, mankind would be no more justified in silencing that one person than he, if he had the power, would be justified in silencing mankind.
John Stuart Mill
When questioned why they almost always give custody to the mother social workers in the Balkans have a number of creative, ready prepared excuses. The most common one is that fathers who want to care for their children are rare and exceptional. If they do not leave their children, Centres for social work take their children away. Let me get this straight: assuming that for every 100 divorce cases 99 fathers abandon their children as well as their wives; the one who wants to be involved in the upbringing of his children is told that he must lose his kids because other 99 fathers did so. To prove that ALL men are evil? To make sure that we all believe that there are no good fathers out there? It would be unacceptable for this one father to ruin the image of a bad father we worked so hard to create in the first place.
Centri za socijalni rad na Balkanu imaju bezbroj pripremljenih izgovora i izmišljenih razloga zašto djecu dodjeljuju majci. Očevi koji se bore da učestvuju u odrastanju i odgoju svog djeteta su obeshrabreni tako što im kažu da su oni izuzeci. A pošto su izuzeci i neće sami da ostave djecu, onda im Centri svojom odlukom oduzmu djecu. Zar im ne bi trebali pružiti punu podršku i pomoć kao takvima? Ni slučajno. Ako od 100 razvedenih brakova 99 muškaraca ostavi svoju djecu i suprugu, onom jednom ocu koji želi biti sa svojom djecom je to pravo uskraćeno jer je ostalih 99 postupilo drugačije. Izvinite momci, moramo potvrditi da su svi očevi loši. Jednostavno, bilo bi neprihvatljivo da jedan od vas pokvari predrasudu o lošem ocu na kojoj smo tako dugo i naporno radile.
Izuzeci protiv predrasuda:
Bosna i Hercegovina: www.otac.ba
Hrvatska:
Crna Gora: www.otac-cg.com
Slovenija: www.drustvo-ostrzek.si
Vrijeme je za promjene, zajedno to možemo.
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